Many expat partners ask themselves what to do with their life after moving abroad – especially when the “society-approved”, traditional corporate job or raising children is not a scenario. We often forget that there is a different path we can go: Not working, investing all the time and energy into ourselves, and be happy as hell. I am thrilled that Simone, who is actually also one of my coaching clients, is open to sharing her story and her personal approach in a blog post with us. Simone is a huge inspiration for me, and I bet you will be inspired after reading her reasoning behind her choice as well. Enjoy getting to know Simone and her creative, bold, confident, and clever approach to spending her time abroad.
A short summary of everything that is going on at the moment and is actually right now in the making. I would love to hear your thoughts about that and look forward to discussing!
Why I started www.sharethelove.blog in the first place
My ultimate goal is to create a platform where Expat Partner can find valuable insights, tips, and tricks, inspirational stories and thought-provoking questions.
There is quite some literature out there but nothing really spoke to me personally. I love reading blogs of other Expat Partners and with some, I really can resonate. It’s a great thing when you read something and think to yourself “That’s exactly how I feel as well!” – “Oh, she is saying this as well- so I am not alone”. I found these moments so enriching that I decided to write down my story as well and grow together with my readers.
When I further researched the whole Expat Partner topic I was shocked to find out that most partners (although perfectly educated, experienced and motivated) are not able to find work abroad.
The sheer number of women quitting their job not being able to continue what they are doing triggered something inside me and I started to think about ways to help those Expat partners who want to work but are not able to make the necessary steps.
Changing a culture is one thing – but changing your culture AND your professional life by not switching jobs but going from the familiar working environment to the BIG question of what to work/how to work abroad can be a big moment in your life. I want to be the valuable support at that moment that I needed so much at the beginning of my Expat journey but was not able to get.
How I want to help other Expat Partners
To reach this goal I was very busy lately visiting several events, connecting with many impressive, bold and future thinking expat minds. A couple of months ago I also started my journey to become a certified coach as I learned that the right question at the right time can change the perspective of our time abroad. A professional coach can transfer a struggling time with a lot of uncertainty into a fruitful soil for life-changing decisions simply by going through your thoughts and questioning underlying beliefs which might have become in your way.
This journey will take some time and you are not becoming a coach overnight (at least not when you take it seriously and value the responsibility you have).
At the same time, I am creating a workbook about FINDING YOUR PROFESSIONAL IDENTITY ABROAD. I am basically traveling back in time and ask myself what I would have needed to manage this transition a lot smoother. A lot of the information needed is now written down and I keep on adding great inspirational stories of other Expat Partners, eye-opening coaching techniques, and straightforward how-to guides. It is a fun and challenging task to put everything together and I can’t wait to share the result with you.
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So there is a lot going on at the morning so it might be a bit quieter on the blog and Instagram in the meantime.
What do you need?
I would love to know more about what you need to make your expat life a bit easier? What are questions you are carrying around with you? How are you dealing with your professional life abroad? Did you find a job? Are you allowed to work? If you want to contribute to the workbook send me a quick message.
I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Thanks for sharing the love and stopping by!
in the meantime...
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A couple of days ago, I stumbled across yet another media coverage about expat spouses and the fact that those well-educated women are throwing away their career ambitions to follow their husband abroad. Interestingly enough, the comments below the post have been even more prejudiced than the article itself. I wonder why it is so hard to change the image of the expat spouse and what we can do to become recognized as what we are: amazing, brave, solution-oriented globe trotters with a lot of understanding for global issues?
Reflecting on my experience at the Families in Global Transition Conference in Bangkok a couple of weeks ago, there is one sentence that is imprinted in my head: “We are equipped – more than others – to make a change.”
I keep wondering: Is that true? Are we in a privileged situation that should trigger us to act?
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