Do you like Mondays? I have the feeling that claiming to hate Mondays is not only the new norm but also widely socially labeled as “cool.” Everyone is posting a sad face and a reference to Mondays on social media. I recently found out that there is also the term “blue Monday” referring to a Monday in January which weatherwise brings the most depressed vibe with it. However, if you are the expat partner, Mondays might have reached a new level of stress. In this article, I want to explain why and what will help if you are feeling moody.
A short summary of everything that is going on at the moment and is actually right now in the making. I would love to hear your thoughts about that and look forward to discussing!
Why I started www.sharethelove.blog in the first place
My ultimate goal is to create a platform where Expat Partner can find valuable insights, tips, and tricks, inspirational stories and thought-provoking questions.
There is quite some literature out there but nothing really spoke to me personally. I love reading blogs of other Expat Partners and with some, I really can resonate. It’s a great thing when you read something and think to yourself “That’s exactly how I feel as well!” – “Oh, she is saying this as well- so I am not alone”. I found these moments so enriching that I decided to write down my story as well and grow together with my readers.
When I further researched the whole Expat Partner topic I was shocked to find out that most partners (although perfectly educated, experienced and motivated) are not able to find work abroad.
The sheer number of women quitting their job not being able to continue what they are doing triggered something inside me and I started to think about ways to help those Expat partners who want to work but are not able to make the necessary steps.
Changing a culture is one thing – but changing your culture AND your professional life by not switching jobs but going from the familiar working environment to the BIG question of what to work/how to work abroad can be a big moment in your life. I want to be the valuable support at that moment that I needed so much at the beginning of my Expat journey but was not able to get.
How I want to help other Expat Partners
To reach this goal I was very busy lately visiting several events, connecting with many impressive, bold and future thinking expat minds. A couple of months ago I also started my journey to become a certified coach as I learned that the right question at the right time can change the perspective of our time abroad. A professional coach can transfer a struggling time with a lot of uncertainty into a fruitful soil for life-changing decisions simply by going through your thoughts and questioning underlying beliefs which might have become in your way.
This journey will take some time and you are not becoming a coach overnight (at least not when you take it seriously and value the responsibility you have).
At the same time, I am creating a workbook about FINDING YOUR PROFESSIONAL IDENTITY ABROAD. I am basically traveling back in time and ask myself what I would have needed to manage this transition a lot smoother. A lot of the information needed is now written down and I keep on adding great inspirational stories of other Expat Partners, eye-opening coaching techniques, and straightforward how-to guides. It is a fun and challenging task to put everything together and I can’t wait to share the result with you.
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So there is a lot going on at the morning so it might be a bit quieter on the blog and Instagram in the meantime.
What do you need?
I would love to know more about what you need to make your expat life a bit easier? What are questions you are carrying around with you? How are you dealing with your professional life abroad? Did you find a job? Are you allowed to work? If you want to contribute to the workbook send me a quick message.
I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Thanks for sharing the love and stopping by!
in the meantime...
Each country has its smell, taste and smaller habits that you can feel more than explain. When you are living abroad, and you are coming home for Christmas, this is a perfect opportunity to explore your own culture with new eyes. You will recognize differences you have not been aware before moving abroad. Here is my selection of 20 typical Germans things that caught my attention after living in the US.
I will be flying to Europe tomorrow and living abroad for two years now my feeling about this holiday and coming “home” has changed a bit. In this blog post, I want to share my view about this. If you are an expat yourself, you might resonate with this, if you are a friend of an Expat this might help you to understand your friend a bit better.
So, I covered in several posts the identity struggle than can come along when you are moving abroad for the partner’s job. It’s a new beginning on several levels and a change also in areas that you have been happy with such as the job situation. In this blog post, I want to present you an interview with a very experienced Expat who moved abroad for her husband’s job and managed to re-invent herself and be happy with the new lifestyle. She contacted me after reading one of my blog posts where I covered the topic of why the question “What do you do?” can be a tough one. She expressed her disbelief that modern women are still struggling with this and showed me her perspective. I loved it and wanted to present to you her point of view so I asked her for an interview. And here it is: A conversation about the modern challenges of being an Expat Partner and what to learn from more experienced Expat Partners – with the amazing Antje Döhring.