Most mothers struggle with juggling the different roles in their life. How to enjoy work while also caring for children? How to deal with public opinions about being a good mother? How to encounter colleagues at work who diminish your level of commitment? Many academic papers are researching the manifold challenges of motherhood. Today, I want to introduce you to the concept of intensive mothering and its effect on the working mothers’ experiences focusing on the paper by Lamar and Forbes (published April 2020) called “A phenomenological investigation into the role of intensive mothering in working mothers’ career experiences.”
A short summary of everything that is going on at the moment and is actually right now in the making. I would love to hear your thoughts about that and look forward to discussing!
Why I started www.sharethelove.blog in the first place
My ultimate goal is to create a platform where Expat Partner can find valuable insights, tips, and tricks, inspirational stories and thought-provoking questions.
There is quite some literature out there but nothing really spoke to me personally. I love reading blogs of other Expat Partners and with some, I really can resonate. It’s a great thing when you read something and think to yourself “That’s exactly how I feel as well!” – “Oh, she is saying this as well- so I am not alone”. I found these moments so enriching that I decided to write down my story as well and grow together with my readers.
When I further researched the whole Expat Partner topic I was shocked to find out that most partners (although perfectly educated, experienced and motivated) are not able to find work abroad.
The sheer number of women quitting their job not being able to continue what they are doing triggered something inside me and I started to think about ways to help those Expat partners who want to work but are not able to make the necessary steps.
Changing a culture is one thing – but changing your culture AND your professional life by not switching jobs but going from the familiar working environment to the BIG question of what to work/how to work abroad can be a big moment in your life. I want to be the valuable support at that moment that I needed so much at the beginning of my Expat journey but was not able to get.
How I want to help other Expat Partners
To reach this goal I was very busy lately visiting several events, connecting with many impressive, bold and future thinking expat minds. A couple of months ago I also started my journey to become a certified coach as I learned that the right question at the right time can change the perspective of our time abroad. A professional coach can transfer a struggling time with a lot of uncertainty into a fruitful soil for life-changing decisions simply by going through your thoughts and questioning underlying beliefs which might have become in your way.
This journey will take some time and you are not becoming a coach overnight (at least not when you take it seriously and value the responsibility you have).
At the same time, I am creating a workbook about FINDING YOUR PROFESSIONAL IDENTITY ABROAD. I am basically traveling back in time and ask myself what I would have needed to manage this transition a lot smoother. A lot of the information needed is now written down and I keep on adding great inspirational stories of other Expat Partners, eye-opening coaching techniques, and straightforward how-to guides. It is a fun and challenging task to put everything together and I can’t wait to share the result with you.
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So there is a lot going on at the morning so it might be a bit quieter on the blog and Instagram in the meantime.
What do you need?
I would love to know more about what you need to make your expat life a bit easier? What are questions you are carrying around with you? How are you dealing with your professional life abroad? Did you find a job? Are you allowed to work? If you want to contribute to the workbook send me a quick message.
I am looking forward to hearing from you!
Thanks for sharing the love and stopping by!
in the meantime...
Becoming a mother most likely creates a shift in your perspectives and your priorities in life. Like with any other major life change it offers the possibility to reflect on the path behind and provokes the question of What next? While mother AND father are facing a new era, it is especially challenging for the one who pauses a career and becomes the major caregiver. In this blog post, I reflect on the different family models and how to decide what’s best for you.
5 weeks in our very own repatriation journey I want to take the chance and reflect. How does it feel to move back to your home country? How does someone adjust to a culture that is familiar but distant at the same time? Oh, and yes, let’s not forget that we are all trying to create a new normal in times of Covid19.
Covid19 is affecting all layers of our daily lives obviously not sparring out employment. As this website focuses on the professional journey of expat partners, I want to address the questions you might have right now:
Does it still make sense to apply for jobs?
Are there even job listings?
What can I do to increase my chances of becoming employed?
2020 had a rough start in terms of global news. The outbreak of the coronavirus was one of them. The sheer amount of media coverage (on all levels of quality) and the uncertainty that the virus outbreak brought to many lives also affected expat families around the globe but specifically those closer to the area of origin. I was wondering, how expat families are coping with the challenge, how they made their decision on whether to stay or to go “home”, and what they have learned from the current situation.
Moving to a new city can definitely be a challenging process, especially if you do not know anyone there. Whether due to a new job, apartment, or relationship, the process of networking with a totally new crowd can be intimidating – even if you’re already outgoing. And that is after you have adjusted to the new location.